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Rachel Hefner uploaded photo(s)
Thursday, February 8, 2024
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Picture of Hefner family, 3809 Sparkman Drive, Alabama. Matthew is tallest boy on the right. Mom Dad, Sarah, John are small kids in front, Esther, Rachel, Matthew are the tall kids. Woman on the right is Aunt Seay (Tennessee Richardson). This picture was taken in the 1960s. During the Apollo program to send a man to the moon - that’s why we lived here-Dad was working at IBM on the Apollo program where subject matter experts from industry ( communications, computers, jet propulsion, flight, food prep, space suits ) joined NASA to design and implement space craft to successfully bring mankind to the moon. This house was built with Apollo program salary from IBM on the GI bill from the US Navy, in an Apollo town. These were very good years for the family. Dad was wearing his IBM engineering outfit , white shirt with pocket protector, and narrow black tie.
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Rachel Hefner uploaded photo(s)
Thursday, February 8, 2024
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Today on February 8th, 2024 , I opened my mailbox and Estey and Munroe Fahey had sent me a one year anniversary card of Matthew! It filled my heart with a burst of happiness to receive this card today. Estey Munroe Fahey has exhibited such compassionate follow up in the remembrance of our dear Matthew throughout the year with cards. I am keeping every single one along with Matthews flag to remember Matthew. Every funeral home could learn from Estey Munroe Fahey. I really love their beautiful attention to our loved one from the moment we made the first phone call all the way to today, one year later. I wish all my family could have their service here.
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Rachel Hefner uploaded photo(s)
Sunday, January 14, 2024
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Estey & Munroe sent me a Birthday Card for Matthew, It made me feel so happy to receive such a thoughtful card many months after Matthews beautiful service in March 2023. Estey & Munroe were thoughtful from the first moment I first spoke to them to make the arrangements for Matthews service - I love these people , they are special.
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Rachel Hefner uploaded photo(s)
Sunday, January 14, 2024
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Estey & Munroe sent me a Christmas Card for Matthew, such a wonderful kind thing to do. I treasure this card and the birthday card for Matthew in November. I feel Estey & Munroe not only did an extraordinary job celebrating Matthew at the service, but continued to remember him on his birthday and Christmas too. They are the most thoughtful funeral home I’ve ever seen and with our large family on Mom and Dads side, I’ve been to many over the years. I love Estey & Munroe.
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RACHEL HEFNER [Matt's Big Sister] uploaded photo(s)
Sunday, September 24, 2023
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PICTURES FOR THE FAMILY TRIBUTE BOOK -- Here are the NAVY mean in this family (1) MATTHEW, (2) JONATHON, (3) DAD
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RACHEL HEFNER [Matt's Big Sister] uploaded photo(s)
Sunday, September 24, 2023
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MORE PICTURES FOR THE TRIBUTE BOOK FOR THE FAMILY -- Here are the NAVY mean in this family (1) MATTHEW, (2) JONATHON, (3) DAD. [oops Dad's picture not here, will post again, this time with Dad as third picture.]
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RACHEL HEFNER [Matt's Big Sister] uploaded photo(s)
Friday, September 22, 2023
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CLOSEUP of MATTHEW's beautiful NAVY BLUE urn.
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RACHEL HEFNER [Matt's Big Sister] uploaded photo(s)
Friday, September 22, 2023
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This image posted again for the TRIBUTE BOOK so it will have it's own page. Mom & Dad will love this picture. They were unable to travel at their age (86 and 89).
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RACHEL HEFNER [Matt's Big Sister] uploaded photo(s)
Friday, September 22, 2023
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Here is Matthew's URN in the glass box shown under the big screen TV image of Matthew. Next to the urn is Matthew's real NAVY outfit he had worn during his service in the NAVY along with his NAVY hat with his name on the inside of it. So this outfit is over 30 years old and we brought it for the service, and Estey and Munroe beautifully displayed it as shown. Also shown are the flowers sent from LOPKE (where Matthew worked), our family, FORD MOTOR COMPANY (where I work) and Matthews friends in the local New York area. Estey and Munroe had Matthew's favorite music selection playing in the background. It was a beautiful, honorable, elegant celebration of Matthew's Life and everyone enjoyed it and it did their heart good to experience the celebration that Estey and Munroe designed for us to experience. Not shown here are 2 big flat screen TVs playing through lots of pictures of Matthew from a baby to a little boy to a young man to his present age. Matthews drawings were on display as well. We all felt nourished by this experience. Estey provided a beautiful glossy brochure for everyone to take home as a loving memory of this service for Matthew. This service was the most thoughtful and beautiful of any service that any of us have ever participated in. Thank You Estey & Munroe.
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RACHEL HEFNER [Matt's Big Sister] uploaded photo(s)
Friday, September 22, 2023
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NAVY VETERANS who attended Matthews Service. Here is a group of about half of them standing under the beautiful blanket hanging on the wall, that Estey and Munroe had made from Matthews Navy picture. It has Matthews Navy picture and Matthews ship. So beautiful. I chatted with these Navy Vets, it was so heartwarming they came to Salute Matthew, one by one. Such a beautiful event. Matthew was their Navy "brother" in their eyes. And was honored by them as one.
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RACHEL HEFNER [Matt's Big Sister] uploaded photo(s)
Friday, September 22, 2023
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Here is the picture of the two NAVY personal to presented the United States Flag to the family during the service. There was a NAVY OFFICER CAPTAIN and a young NAVY SEAMAN who both, unfolded the refolded the United States Flag and kneeled before me and presented the folded flag to me. It was so beautiful and so moving, I and others had tears in their eyes. I was so proud of Matthew's service to the Navy and proud of all these Navy personnel who attended.
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Rachel Hefner (Sister) uploaded photo(s)
Thursday, September 14, 2023
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This is a photo of Matthews beautiful service at Estey and Munroe, it was a beautiful celebration of Matthew with so many elements to celebrate him with ( posters, music Matthew loved, pictures of him through out his life, and the staff even went over to Matthews favorite- Dunkin Donuts and brought a fresh hot cup of coffee to place next to Matt’s Urn) .. and the military service brought us all to tears it was sooo moving and beautiful! This was the most beautiful service I’ve ever attended in my life. In our sadness, Estey and Munroe delivered a happy, fun, elegant, spiritual and honorable service for all of us to experience and honor our Memories of Matthew!! Thank You Estey and Munroe!!
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Rebecca Hefner posted a condolence
Saturday, April 1, 2023
Q: What was Matthew really good at?
A: He was an excellent draftsman. You would not believe the fine details he could get into a drawing!
He was attentive to fine details in his handiwork of all kinds. Taking time and pleasure in attending to those details to make the finished product all the more rich and interesting.
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Esther, John and Justin purchased flowers
Friday, March 31, 2023
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Esther, John and Justin
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Rachel Hefner (Matt’s Big Sister) uploaded photo(s)
Tuesday, March 28, 2023
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Condolences from The Adkins Children in West Virginia
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Rachel Hefner (Matt’s Big Sister) uploaded photo(s)
Tuesday, March 28, 2023
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Condolence from Uncle Dave Hefner and Aunt Gigi Hefner in Pittsburgh Pennsylvania
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RACHEL HEFNER [ Matthew's Big Sister ] uploaded photo(s)
Sunday, March 26, 2023
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Much Thanks to Craig Cressman for locating this keepsake - Matthew's Navy Unit! See if you can tell which one is him! Matthew love love loved the NAVY soooooooo much. Simply loved it with all his heart!
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Chris Bodine posted a condolence
Sunday, March 26, 2023
We were shocked and saddened to learn of Matthew's sudden passing. He was a longtime friend of our family. We always remember his helpfulness and all the times we shared together. He will always be in our memories. I miss you, Matt, my best friend, Chris.
The Bodine Family (Chris and Peg Bodine, Jan and Andrew Soucier)
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RACHEL HEFNER [ Matthew's Big Sister ] Posted Mar 26, 2023 at 10:41 PM
CHRIS, Thank You so much for posting, I remember you from 1970's I believe, long ago when we were all young, silly and full of energy. Yes it was very hard to process the sudden loss of Matthew, for all of us. So I understand how hard it was for you and your family as well. Thank You for being a long time friend of Matthew, it is heartwarming to hear from you & your family. Love, Matt's Big Sister, Rachel
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Esther, Matthew’s Younger Sister posted a condolence
Saturday, March 25, 2023
With a brother like Matthew, there was never a dull moment, he kept us in stitches growing up, with his brand of comedy, so I will share some of the hilarious memories and fun memories I have of Mathew, growing up.
When we were grade school kids and lived in the Huntsville house I remember playing with hot wheel cars in the dirt with Matt and Scott Gibson. We would build elaborate cities and roads to run the cars on. And one time we made a really good looking mud pie of that Alabama mud, and Matt took a bite out of it.
Also during the grade school years in Alabama, I remember Matt would sit at the kitchen table with all us kids at lunch time, and see what kind of reaction he could get out of us kids by making a silly face and then smashing himself in the face with a plate of warm mashed potatoes Mom had just made. Of course we all burst out in laughter!
When we were teenagers in New York State, I remember hanging out with Matthew and Fran at the mall, goofing around, and riding around town in my white vintage Monte Carlo. We had a lot of fun and laughs those days!
When we lived on the farm in NY, I remember Matt often tried to make pets out of the wild life. Once he caught a squirrel and brought it in the house and it was running loose in his room. That day mom walked in the door to get on to us for not being out in the barn, helping with the chores. It was in the winter, and she was wearing a heavy parka with a hood. When she was standing there talking, the squirrel dashed up to the top of her head and back down in a flash second, but she never felt it because her coat was so thick. We were all laughing, and she could not understand what we thought was so funny about telling us to get out to the barn and help. We never told her that the squirrel had ran up to her head and back down!
Another time, Matthew decided to try and make a pet out of a porcupine. At one point the porcupine fell backwards off the piano bench onto the carpet and its quills got stuck in the carpet, with its feet in the air ! Then Matthew trimmed its quills. Porcupine quills kept showing up in the couches and laundry for quite some time. We were all getting stuck with quills and those things are hard to get out clothing and couches because they have a hook on them.
Matt also used to make his own comedy tapes. One of his major influences was Cheech and Chong, who were very popular at the time. He would become the actors in all the skits, and record himself, while I was playing my piano music in the background. And he would make up all kinds of funny situations and change his voice for all the different characters that he was playing. I often thought he missed his calling in life and that he should have been a writer or actor for a comedy show such as Saturday Night Live and David Letterman.
Another time Matt decided to do his own comedy skit in downtown Owego New York, to see what kind of reaction he could get out of people. So he put on a hunchback costume and messed up his hair and painted his teeth green. He drove downtown and got out of his car and limped down the sidewalk, attracting a lot of attention. Then he went into a phone booth and came out normal! Ha ha.
In more recent times, Matthew caught some mice that got into the house and decided to set them up with a nice play pen with running wheels. He showed them to me on FaceTime and he was so amused by all the things they would do. He would be a narrator like you see on nature shows, commenting and laughing about the mice on their high speed running wheels as they fling each other off the wheel by spinning it super fast, some where one of us has that video still to this day!
Matt was the one taking care of the farm when my parents were off in West Virginia, Florida, or New Hampshire, or South Carolina. He was always telling me about his challenges trying to keep the wildlife from destroying the house and one time he told me me how he had to smoke a groundhog out of a big long tunnel near the house. He got the idea from the movie Caddie Shack. There are many stories about Matthew and the New York State varmints that tried to get in the roof, the walls and any ground level openings lol.
I will miss you brother Matt, but I can take comfort in the fact that you are in the hands of our loving Heavenly Father and we will all soon be together again and it will be so awesome. God will restore all of his creation back to its original beauty beyond anything that we can imagine. People will see family members and friends and will be running over to hug them and crying tears of joy. We will all look young again, so it may take a moment to recognize some family members that you never saw as a young person. I can imagine all of us hanging out and chatting with our loving Heavenly Father and walking through the beautiful creation with Jesus as he points out different things to look at and hands us a beautiful bird or critter to hold.
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RACHEL HEFNER [ Matthew's Big Sister ] Posted Mar 26, 2023 at 10:43 PM
Esther, Thank You so much for this walk down memory lane of some of the funny things Matthew has done, I was falling out of my chair in laughter reading these events, some of which, I was never a part ot or aware of. So Thank You for that. I think we all needed to read your tribute and remember Matthew as joyously as you have written here.
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Friday, March 24, 2023
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Big Sister Rachel purchased flowers
Saturday, March 18, 2023
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Big Sister Rachel
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Big Sister Rachel planted a tree in memory of Matthew Hefner
Saturday, March 18, 2023
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RACHEL HEFNER [Matthews Big Sister] posted a condolence
Saturday, March 18, 2023
Matthew, as soon as I found out you had left this earth, instantly my biggest regret was letting life and work get in the way of spending more time with you. As we all got older, we got more authentic with each other and more vulnerable, and I enjoyed your authentic vulnerable self, and how you are comedic without even trying to be a comedian. It’s your unique authenticity in how you view life that strikes a chord with my funny bones. I can’t really explain what it is, but it’s something that is uniquely you. There is nobody like you. I loved how you liked to share with me your latest findings in life, whether it’s a new health discovery in supplements, or green drinks, to spiritual things, or noteworthy things about science, outer space or the news, along with your humorous stories of your everyday CADDYSHACK-like adventures with all the varmints that want to come in the house and take up residence with you. That’s life out in the country, LOL, keeping the varmints o.u.t. As I spent many late nights on the computer crunching data for FORD during the pandemic, I learned to embrace video chats, and enjoyed having you on the video screen at night, telling me your stories, or showing me the cool APPLE devices you loved and what they do for you, or helping me understand the smart phones a little better. Those chats were a great joy to me. I loved our video time together. I am absolutely in awe of the work you do, and what it takes to do that kind of work. It requires someone with some extra sensors, extra computational ability and geometric awareness to handle those big rigs and haul them around the USA. One day I will join you in the hereafter, and we can catch up on all that you want to talk about. And, in the hereafter, the stresses of keeping a living will fall away, and we can all enjoy each’s company walking around in the gardens of Heaven, with all our loved ones, and the Lord Jesus himself. Won’t that be nice? I know it will be. Enjoy your time in your new body, your new life, with happiness and joy. Glad you are embraced in Heavenly Love now. LOVE YOU BROTHER, Your Sister, Rachel.
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RACHEL HEFNER [Matthews Big Sister] uploaded photo(s)
Saturday, March 18, 2023
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Here is a beautiful picture of Matthew in the NAVY in 1984. Matthew's good friend CRAIG has discovered this picture and sent it over to me. Matthew surely loved the NAVY experience! It shows in this picture of him with a joyous smile with his fellow seamen. He loved the structure, the uniforms, and the mission. LOVE YOU BROTHER.
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RACHEL HEFNER [Matthews Big Sister] uploaded photo(s)
Friday, March 10, 2023
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Craig Cressman located this beautiful picture of Matthew in an airport in his NAVY UNIFORM, with his Mom and Dad back in the 1980s. Dad is wearing one of those polyester blazers popular at the time. Matthew's face brings joy to my heart. This is how we remember Matthew in our hearts. Love You Brother.
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Stephen Hefner posted a condolence
Saturday, February 25, 2023
I remember when Mom, Susie and I came to Huntsville to stay for some weeks, while Mom recuperated from some illness. We became a part of the family in that house during that time. I remember Matthew at that time as a very tender-hearted person who felt things deeply. those feelings were often expressed in his drawings, which were to my mind, incredibly good. They covered everything from customer motorcycles to caricatures of family members or teachers. Those were often humorous. His art was brilliant.
I also learned a lot about farm life with Matthew as we milked and took care of the goats at Paint Rock Valley and often butchered chickens or geese for a special dinner while we visited there.
For my big brother, Bill and his lovely wife, Christine, and friends and family who share in this loss: I grieve with you in this sudden loss. I know that all of us would take this hurt away if we could. We can take comfort in that we have a loving Heavenly Father whose purposes, though often beyond our understanding, are perfect.
Psalm 18:30 "As for God, his way is perfect: the word of the LORD is tried: he is a buckler to all those that trust in him."
There is nowhere we can go where God is not, and no trial through which we will pass that he is not there to walk through it with us.
Psalm 139:1-12 "To the chief Musician, A Psalm of David. O LORD, thou hast searched me, and known me. Thou knowest my downsitting and mine uprising, thou understandest my thought afar off. Thou compassest my path and my lying down, and art acquainted with all my ways. For there is not a word in my tongue, but, lo, O LORD, thou knowest it altogether. Thou hast beset me behind and before, and laid thine hand upon me. Such knowledge is too wonderful for me; it is high, I cannot attain unto it. Whither shall I go from thy spirit? or whither shall I flee from thy presence? If I ascend up into heaven, thou art there: if I make my bed in hell, behold, thou art there. If I take the wings of the morning, and dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea; Even there shall thy hand lead me, and thy right hand shall hold me. If I say, Surely the darkness shall cover me; even the night shall be light about me. Yea, the darkness hideth not from thee; but the night shineth as the day: the darkness and the light are both alike to thee."
God is always with us, and basically has us surrounded. I love that truth. Nothing comes to us that does not pass by Him first.
We can also know that in Christ, death is not "the end."
But I would not have you to be ignorant, brethren, concerning them which are asleep, that ye sorrow not, even as others which have no hope. For if we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so them also which sleep in Jesus will God bring with him. For this we say unto you by the word of the Lord, that we which are alive and remain unto the coming of the Lord shall not prevent them which are asleep. For the Lord himself shall descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trump of God: and the dead in Christ shall rise first: Then we which are alive and remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds, to meet the Lord in the air: and so shall we ever be with the Lord. Wherefore comfort one another with these words.
1 Thessalonians 4:13-18
Time and distance have separated us, but our love for you remains. I am especially proud of my big brother, and always have been. I am praying for you during this difficult time.
Love you,
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RACHEL HEFNER [Matthew's Big Sister] Posted Feb 26, 2023 at 10:26 PM
Uncle Stephen, Thank You for your tribute & memories of Matthew back when we were all so young, it is therapy to the soul of all who spent time with Matthew & need to have a few more memories of him to store in our hearts. Love Psalms & Thessalonians messages to all of us as we wrap our hearts around losing a loved one suddenly and reflect on the meaning of life, of Matthew's life, and our own individual lives. Mom & Dad will treasure these words & send Love & Blessings to You & Your Family
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Fran Campos posted a condolence
Friday, February 24, 2023
I have known Matt since he was 17.
My memories of Matt were how enjoyable he was to be around with his unique sense of humor. He was extremely intelligent and could see humor in every situation whether good or bad. With his up beat humor he could always make you laugh. One of my fond memories was when in 1982 we lived together so we could both could save money. Matt was working as a draftsman at the JC incubator. Matt hated the ceiling of the apartment we lived in so much he stayed late for 2 weeks at work to draft a beautifully hand drawn 1/10 scale of a F15 fighter jet. Matt brought the drawings home and he adhered them to the ceiling so he would not have to see the old panels on the ceiling anymore. I still laugh every time I think about that. Matt had so many talents. He especially enjoyed computers. Whether building them or mastering their operating systems. Matt also loved mechanics. He would always be working on his trucks or tractors. Matt was a great person with a great soul that he is now sharing with his savior Jesus Christ. I am looking forward to seeing Matt on the flip side..
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RACHEL HEFNER [Matthew's Big Sister] Posted Feb 25, 2023 at 11:45 AM
FRAN, Thank you for your beautiful tribute memory. Every shared memory is therapy to all of us who loved Matthew, and want to share a few more moments of Matthews earthly life. Wow I had never heard about the hand drawn F15 Fighter Jet ceiling mural. It must have been magnificent to see. He was very good at drawing, and we will be saving the drawings that you and Craig found in his room. I remember those from gradeschool times. Yes we will enjoy seeing Matthew on the flip side. LuvUBrother
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Deborah Fischer posted a condolence
Monday, February 20, 2023
Most of my memories of Matthew are when we were children, when my brother Bill would bring his clan to visit a couple of times a year. I have pleasant memories of all of us kids playing together for hours. Matthew always hung out with the boys, of course, and never caused trouble for us girls! He was rambunctious at times, as energetic little boys are expected to be, and I can remember hearing Christine's voice reigning him in. "Matthew!" He was a beautiful child and grew up to be a handsome guy. I admire that he served in the Navy as his dad and my dad did. He was a blessing to family and to our country. I am really enjoying seeing the photo album to see the quality guy he grew up to be, and that he lived life to the fullest doing what he loved. God truly blessed him with many gifts, which is manifested in his many accomplishments and interests. It's sad that we lose contact as adults as we get on with the business of our lives, families and careers. I look forward to seeing him again one day in eternity. Love you Matthew!
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RACHEL HEFNER Posted Feb 22, 2023 at 9:46 PM
AUNT DEBBIE, He became a vulnerable thoughtful human being, me too, I'm amazed at the talent he possesses, he's got that something special to be able to drive these huge rigs down the highway to their destination containing millions of dollars of equipment. He really grasped the physics, the geometry, the timing, he's a philosopher in his inner core, with ability to pick up on science & technology. It is so sad that our careers, jobs, end up seperating us. Glad we have eternity to catch up.
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Laura Racer uploaded photo(s)
Sunday, February 19, 2023
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It seems unbelievable Matt had just contacted me last year in October and we shared pictures back and forth, reminisced about family get togethers and discussed our mutual love of feeding wild animals. I know he's in Heaven now, but he will be missed. My deepest sympathy to his siblings and parents.
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RACHEL HEFNER Posted Feb 24, 2023 at 12:03 AM
Laura, Thank You for your tribute to Matthew, I"m glad y'all connected and share pictures, and all those great visits we made to Parkersburg, a place we all remember with great happiness. Matthew and all of us loved coming to the HEFNERs on 2704 New York Avenue and playing with all Dad's siblings kids, including your family as well. Thanks for connecting with Matthew, in this world where we are all spread out all over the USA. Wish we were all living on New York Avenue or nearby.
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Laura uploaded photo(s)
Sunday, February 19, 2023
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It seems unbelievable Matt had just contacted me last year in October and we shared pictures back and forth, reminisced about family get togethers and discussed our mutual love of feeding wild animals. I know he's in Heaven now, but he will be missed. My deepest sympathy to his siblings and parents.
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craig cressman posted a condolence
Sunday, February 19, 2023
Matt was my best friend,From our teens years to present,He was my brother in my book,We grew together as best friends watching over each other almost every day calling, Matt will be missed so much buy many, he was a kind soul,and so generous and helpful, We traveled through tough times and lots of laughs, but managed to be there for each other,Matt’s family and mine we’re always one big family,I am so grateful he watched my kids grow up, and celebrated with them in there lives, I know Matt is residing in heaven,His brother John planted the seed of Jesus in his heart over two years ago, and Matt studied the Bible with all his heart,Which over flowed to me ,I know we will meet again in heaven,but I will still pick up my phone to call him I know , This was a friendship that is hard to find, my family and I will surely miss him, I guess Jesus called Matt because he knew his work was done here,but I know he is celebrating in heaven ,miss you buddy
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RACHEL HEFNER Posted Feb 22, 2023 at 9:51 PM
CRAIG & ELLEN, the Hefner Family is so thankful for your lifetime of friendship, he regarding you like a brother, and you have become a link to Matthew getting to hear your stories during all the phases of growing up until now. I'm enjoying hear all your stories. You made his life less lonely, even tho living on that hill, was peaceful and beautiful, we all need those soulful thoughtful friends to ground us. God Bless You, Ellen &The Kids - You meant the world to Matthew, You were his family :)
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Lisa Godino posted a condolence
Saturday, February 18, 2023
Very sorry for the loss of your loved one. I started working for Lopke trucking the last week in April, 2022. I met Matt the first week of May. I remember he was very quiet, but as the weeks went on he started to talk more to me. I remember one particular morning he was eating a piece of left over pizza that was left on the drives table in the garage, and suddenly I noticed something very familiar that brought me back to a young girl. Matt had a piece of gum stuck on the back of his hand while he ate his pizza! I suddenly laughed in joy and said "wow! I remember doing that". We both laughed and went on about are day. Matt was always very kind to me; as he was kind to everyone. Matt also looked out for everyone, giving good advice and always trying to help someone in need. I remember one day I thank him for all the kind things he has done for me, and he replied, all of us like you here and we want you to stay, and my heart was just filled with joy! I knew that day on how blessed I was to be working with Matt and all the other employees at Lopke. My dear friend you are going to be missed terribly! I am going to miss you spraying my windshield in the morning and giving me a cloth towel everytime it was going to rain! You were not supposed to leave us this soon, I was looking forward to seeing you again in the spring! My heart is crying and so is everyone eles who worked with you! I will say it again, you are in the palms of Father God's hands rest in peace my friend, rest in peace.....we all love you and we all will miss you.....
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RACHEL HEFNER Posted Feb 23, 2023 at 9:20 AM
Lisa, Thank You for sharing these sweet moments of Matthew, it gives more more memories to treasure of him. I was hoping to hear from LOPKE people to hear their stories of travelling and working with Matthew. He really loved that job, and it's incredible the loads he was driving around on the highways. I love the gum on the hand story, LOL. Matt was funny like that in all kinds of things. I love that he sprayed your windshield, and gave you a cloth for rainy weather. TYVM for sharing XOXO.
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Rebecca Hefner posted a condolence
Saturday, February 18, 2023
I remember as a kid that the highest honor bestowed by Mathew on us younger siblings was to be invited to listen to music on his high end stereo system. He would play music from artists like Andreas Vollenweider, who played the harp in beautifully layered and detailed music that only a really good stereo system could bring out for one to hear and appreciate. He would carefully adjust the sound on his amplifier- base, mid range, treble, etc to get it just right. I have always had an appreciation for that kind of music since.
Of course, he also played Cheech and Chong records as well! I can still remember some of those skits word for word. Thanks big brother for passing on your love of humor and music. ❤️
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Karen Herrala Posted Feb 21, 2023 at 7:40 AM
I graduated with Matt from Tioga Center. It was only recently that I learned he lived less than a mile from me. I am sorry that I did not reconnect with him. Your tribute to Matt caught my eye because I have never met anyone else who listened to Andreas Vollenweilder! (I played the harp in highschool.) Rest in Peace Matt. - Karen Herrala
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
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Matthew's Best Buddy, Brother from another mother - Craig Cressman (and son). Craig has more children who all grew up with "Uncle Matt". Keeping this photo at the top of the list of photos. Many pages of family pictures are provided below to remember Matthew with..page down and click the right arrows to get to all the other pages.
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Aunt Susie Snyder posted a condolence
Thursday, February 16, 2023
I remember the highlights of my childhood were going to my brother Bill’s house in Alabama and also in New York. Here are a few memories! Playing Monopoly with the boys and Esther and I would be banker and realtor. We would slip each other properties and money under the table and the boys (Matthew included) rarely caught on. They thought we were great players. We also used to make food and snacks and would make the boys pay us for it!!! I never remember Matthew complaining about it. He just enjoyed the snacks. He was always happy, quiet natured and loved to have fun outdoors. We swam in a creek near a bridge with a deep pool and Matthew would jump off the bridge into water. I thought he was so brave!!! It’s sad that life and distance keeps this large family apart too much!!!
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RACHEL HEFNER Posted Feb 17, 2023 at 9:25 AM
Aunt Suzie, so true. We all have big families, but we are all spread out all over the USA, because we have to go where the jobs are, have to make a living. Sigh, I admire families who manage to get to be in the same area their whole lives, with their aunts and uncles and grammas and grandpas to enrich and fortify their lives. Yes all us kids went to swim in that creek pool many times, but when u get out of the water, u had to run home to keep the water flies from landing on u and biting u!Ouch
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NOVEMBER 2022 Matthews Mom & Dad. While Dad could still walk on his own, sit on his own. In January 2023 one morning Dad woke up and could no longer get up, stand up or walk on his own. The last picture we have of them sitting together and posing for a video chat picture. Sweet sweet Sweet Parents.
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MATTHEW'S Mom & Dad in Jupiter Florida in 2021. They sit on the back porch and soak up the sun. Before they became less mobile, they would daily ride the 3 wheel bike in front of Esthers house to stay active. Mom likes to wear the same outfit in all her pictures, so we just go along with it. In fact we bought her 12 of these shirts to have them on hand. On events like Father's Day or Mother's Day or Valentines Day....we would always order food and have a little buffet with the parents via video chat or in person if we were travelling to FLORIDA. In 2021 Dad has ability to speak sometimes and sometimes could not speak a full sentence. Dad is 89 and Mom is 86.
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
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MATTHEW'S Mom and Dad, Jupiter Florida (Living with Esther). Pictures from 2020. This was when Dad could still walk and stand on his own. In 2023, Dad woke up one morning and could not stand or walk on his own. Dad is in long term care now. Matthew's parents were humble servants, always helping someone in the family get well. They came to Esther's house when she had a long term illness and cooked and cleaned and kept house for Esther for 7+ years. Prior to that, they were in Wayne County assisting with the inhome care of her beloved GLADYS (cousin) who was in her 70s. They redefined humble. When others might get tired or worn out, they kept going. Dad would pray often for those in need, and liked to preach The Word to all who would listen, and even wrote letters to his kids on the topic.
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
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Mom loved FAMILY PICTURES -- and we seem to have a lot of them from the 1960's...Matthew is right next to his Dad in this photo. Left to Right - Rachel, Esther, Matthew, Daddy, and the little ones SarahJane, Jonathon. Love You Brother.
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LOPKE CONTRACTING, INC - You fellas made it into Matthews Picture Album - Y'all meant something to him. You know who you are. Glad you spent time with my beloved Brother. Love you Lopke Guys and Gals
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
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LOPKE CONTRACTING, INC - Matthew surely hauled an extensive variety of product to the Customer. Matthew loved this particular company and loved driving for them. Somehow this was the adventure he enjoyed having and looked no further. Glad You had a good time, Brother. Love You.
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
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LOPKE CONTRACTING INC - Matthew loves to pose in front of his trucks. And I enjoy that he did. Love You Brother
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
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LOPKE CONTRACTING INC - Matthew hauls in the sunny weather and even the snow. Matthew always has his cup of hot coffee for the road. He had his phone, his tunes, his coffee, his snacks packed -> He was ready to go! Matthew was very serious about his sleep and pretrip preparations -- he let you know if you call him during sleep time, you will not get a response, driving is serious business. Sleep is serious business in this line of work. Love You Brother - You did it Right.
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
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LOPKE CONTRACTING INC -- Matthew has to fuel this big rig too! Love You Brother.
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
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LOPKE CONTRACTING INC -- Matthew checking the big green load he is carrying on this trip. He was entrusted to carry these big loads safely to their destination. Truck Drivers are a special breed of human and Matthew was a special breed of human. Living the Dream. Living an adventure. Love You Brother
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
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Matthew posing with his LOPKE truck, hauling a full load. Living the Dream, Loving Life. Love You Brother.
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
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LOPKE CONTRACTING INC - Matthew sometimes was hauling rock products. Here are his LOPKE buddies standing next to a big giant pile of rock product. Love You Brother.
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
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Have to fill the cabin with things for the road trip. Matthew has gone on many many road trips, playing his radio, playing his tunes, listening to his bible radio as well. CHECK OUT THAT MASSIVE BOOMBOX!!! Much time for reflection driving on the road for a living. Love You Brother.
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
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Incredibly large load! Matthew mastered the art of these big loads on these big rigs. Living the Dream. You make it look easy. Love You Brother.
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I have only just now realized I can put multiple pictures per post. Yahoo. Matthew's one trip here shows a massive piece of equipment he's delivering to the customer. Wonder how many gallons of gasoline he is putting into that rig? Mathew was living the dream - he loves technology, he loves trucks, he loves the open road. You made it look easy (and it's not easy). Love You Brother
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
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Happy Valentines in Heaven My Brother -- Love You. Jesus give Matthew an extra squeeze for us!
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
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Lopke has all kinds of big trucks & Matthew has driven all kinds of trucks. Here's a red one. Matthew got to climb up in these big rigs and turn on the engine, hear the engines beautiful sounds, and drive these beasts, delivering product to the customer. You made it look easy Brother. Love You. We will see you again one day and then we will have all the time in the world to spend together! Love You Brother
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
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These super long hauling jobs are super tricky and Matthew had to be aware of the physics and geometry of hauling these jobs. Can you imagine it? Just absolutely fascinating. You make it look easy Brother - Love You.
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
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I never get tired to seeing all these 18 wheeler pictures of Matthew. So grateful to have these to post and share with all of you. Love You Brother.
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I love this picture of Matthew standing on his rig. It's truly mesmerizing to view these big rigs, and Matthew drove them for 20+ years. You make it look so easy Brother. Love You Brother.
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Matthew loved the big powerful rigs. Machinery and technology fascinated Matthew and he was living the dream, driving these big rigs, here is another configuration he was driving. Imagine being responsible for such expensive equipment and driving it to it's destination without incident. Matthew had that kind of comfort with these assignments. Matthew had that some special. Love You Brother
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Shelly Petronis posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 14, 2023
So very sorry to hear of Matthew’s passing. My sincerest condolences. Wishing you peace and comfort. My prayers are with your entire family,
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RACHEL HEFNER Posted Feb 21, 2023 at 5:57 PM
Thank You Shelly, we appreciate it, each kind word is a bit therapy to our souls. At moments like this, it makes me evaluate both the loved one's life and mine. Did I visit enough, could I have done more? Said more? And then I look around to see whether I could improve that with everyone I still have. I am comforted knowing one day we will have eternity together to chat about anything. Anything at all.
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Melissa Hefner Cooke posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 14, 2023
It saddens our hearts that our brother Bill and his wife Christine, have lost their beloved son Matthew. Matthew was the fifth out of 41 grandchildren born to Wilburt and Louise Hefner. Our hearts go out to Rachel, Esther, Jonathan, Sara Jane and Rebecca.
Praying for you all.
Aunt Lissa Hefner Cooke.
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RACHEL HEFNER Posted Feb 17, 2023 at 9:31 AM
Thank U Aunt Lyssa. The Hefner Family (Dad's family) was so big, you guys number the kids and grandkids. At family reunion that I took my Dad to, Uncle Stan said I was grandbaby #1, & that intrigued me that I had a number in the lineup of grandbabies. Nice to know Matthew was #5. You know a family is big when they have numbers, LOL. Mom's memory comes &goes, Dad's ability to speak comes &goes at this point, but we will ready every single comment to them & get a TRIBUTE BOOK to read to them
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Jim Gibson posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 14, 2023
We are all very sad about Matthew's passing. We were childhood neighbors & friends of The Hefner family. My family (the Gibson's) moved to Huntsville AL in 8/1963 right next door to the Hefners who had already been there a few months ahead of us. In the Hefner family there were 6 kids (Rachel, Matthew, Jonathan, Sarah Jane & Rebecca), and in my family 4 kids, Rene', me (Jimmy), Scott & Marlo. Us kids played in our big back yards together from sun up til sundown in the summer months...chase, freeze tag, red rover, dodge ball, and all manner of make believe. Mr.Hefner (Bill) installed a swimming pool in the back yard in fairly short order, and guess which yard all the kids then wanted to hang out in. And indeed the Hefners were very generous inviting us to swim often. Matthew was between Scott & me in age and the 2 of them would often go off and play alone. Matthew was an introspective and curious one and studied things quietly all the time, analyzing & methodically figuring things out showing early signs of having inherited his father's brilliant engineer's mind. And he was also ever patient and kind to the younger/smaller children all about. Anyway, our happy, secure and ilyllic childhoods continued on for nearly a decade as strong bonds formed. Eventually the Gibson's and the Hefners moved to different neighborhoods and life went on in multiple directions as life does. In the last few years though, I've enjoyed reconnecting with Rachel, Matthew & Esther via Facebook. Our hearts now go out to Matthew's parents, siblings, and other loved ones, friends and others who knew & loved him. He is gone way too soon and will be terribly missed. Rest in Peace Matt.
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RACHEL HEFNER Posted Feb 21, 2023 at 6:06 PM
Jimmy (what I remember calling you when we were kids), Thank You for that trip down memory lane, and all the beautiful words remembering my brother Matthew, I treasure each detail, it allows me to savor more memories of Matthew. 1963. Those were a lot fun memories of Alabama sunshine, water, flowers, the creek, mud, mudpies, swinging, laughing, all of us chasing each other around (your & our fam), gleefully, &playing all those kids games on all those warm sunny days in Huntsville Alabama.
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Stan Hefner posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 14, 2023
So sad to hear of Matthews death. One of my many nephews and I did not have much time to know him since he lived so far away. I was eleven when he was born. So glad that he did not suffer and is in the presence of his Lord Jesus
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RACHEL HEFNER Posted Feb 21, 2023 at 6:11 PM
Uncle Stan, Yes, so glad he didn't see it coming, One second he's on his phone & next second, with the Lord. Just that quick. Matthew we are thinking of you, and so sorry we could not have spent more time with you, you in New York and me in Michigan, Esther in Florida, JohnRebSarah in South Carolina, but will see you in Eternity. Love You Brother! Prayers to everyone out there who wonders if they should spend more time with your loved ones. Say more I love You's. The answer is YES.
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MATTHEW - SUMMER OF 2022. His Best Buddy Craig Cressman and Craig's Son Aiden. The Hefner Family feels tremendous gratitude for the life long friendship. We call Craig, Matthew's brother from another mother. WE LOVE YOU CRAIG & FAMILY. You meant the world to Matthew and you mean the world to us. Love you Brother Craig. Love You Brother Matthew.
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David Hefner posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 14, 2023
In our early years as children my vacation each year was riding to Huntsville, Alabama. Even though I was an uncle, Matthew and I were more like friends. With only a four year age difference we had many of the same interests. The one thing that always stood out with Matthew was his ability to think beyond the norm. You could see him analyzing things that showed an ability to do mechanical stuff without training. I remember him being very detail oriented. And always kind to everyone.
In reading all his accomplishments, I’m not surprised at all he did. Of course he could only be a navy man like his dad and pa paw before him. Most of his other joys s an adult involved working with his hands and mind.
I am glad for the times we did have to remember. I am sad that Mathew left so early. I look forward to the day when we can all be together again.
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RACHEL HEFNER [Matthew's Big Sister] Posted Feb 24, 2023 at 4:54 PM
UNCLE DAVE: Thank You for the loving tribute memory of Matthew, he has been a thinker and as kids we could not see that then, but as adults, that is what stands out about him, and his vulnerability, and how authentic and unique he was. Your tribute reminds me that he had a photographic memory, and could make detailed drawings effortlessly, and as you remembered, he had a natural grasp of mechanical physics. It will take an eternity to enjoy everything about him - I look forward to that.
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Jenny Casteel posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 14, 2023
So sorry about the loss of Matthew. Though I only saw him when he was younger, still was a part of my family and it saddens me for those he left behind. Love you all and your mom and dad very much. (My mom; Gladys and Christine were cousins)
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RACHEL HEFNER [Matthew's Big Sister] Posted Feb 24, 2023 at 4:58 PM
Jenny, Mother and Dad love all of you sooooooooooo much. Thank You for making them so happy all the years they were in Wayne County, West Virginia. This loss, if they could grasp it right now, would be devastating to them. On the one hand I'm sad their memories are not fully capable, to save them from this, but then again, they would have dearly wanted to honor Matthew by attending his Military honored service. Thank for writing something I can read off to them, when I buy the TRIBUTE BOOK.
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Linda Stump posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 14, 2023
We were very sad to hear of Matthews passing. Never met him, but heard numerous stories from other family members - namely Bill & Christine. Most concentrated on the time the family lived in New York, but more recent stories of talking to Matthew and how he was doing. So very sorry for your loss, may your precious memories comfort you, because he will live forever in your hearts. Thoughts and prayers. Linda Stump. Hugs!!!!
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RACHEL HEFNER [Matthew's Big Sister] Posted Feb 24, 2023 at 5:02 PM
LINDA, it's hard to realize Mom/Dad cannot realize and participate in the military honored memorial service that will occur with Matthew, as they would have dearly wanted to, but if they were to understand what has occured, I am concerned how it might affect them, that's the hardest thing, to lose a son or daughter. So I am counting on the TRIBUTE BOOK as a way for me to do this privately with them when I can be there to cry right along with them. As many times as needed.
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MANY MORE PICTURES TO COME....by RACHEL HEFNER, Matthews older Sister. I hope the recipients enjoy this picture trip down memory lane with my beloved brother MATTHEW NATHANIEL HEFNER. I'm not finished yet...more to come. If you visit before I complete the picture collage, feel free to comment on any pictures or post your own pictures of Matthew or memories. Thank You.
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Matthew standing on his LOPKE rig. Imagine being able to hand a job like this. There is a lot that goes into putting that machinery on this rig, anchoring it, and driving it on US Highways. Incredible. I love this picture of him. He really enjoyed this life, this adventure. You make it look easy, Love You Brother.
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
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WOW...Matthew took a picture of one of his rigs during one of his deliveries. Wow. Look at that thing! You make it look easy, Love You Brother.
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Tuesday, February 14, 2023
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The inside view of the LOPKE rigs Matthew was driving on his daily drives. Such an adventure. Love You Brother
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 13, 2023
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Matthew is fueling up one of his big rigs from LOPKE. Look at all the equipment on it! Matthew made it look easy! Love You Brother - wish I could have taken a ride with you in one of these truck. Everyone reading this, go out and connect with people you love, go take those rides, you never know when your time is up to do those things. You made it look easy, Love You Brother.
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 13, 2023
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Another LOPKE trucking rig Matthew was working with. It's amazing how many kinds of rigs he could drive. He made it look easy, Love You Brother.
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 13, 2023
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Matthews LOPKE truck of that day. That's a nice rig. Matthew drove all kinds of trucks. He made it look easy. Love You Brother.
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 13, 2023
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LOPKE CONTRACTING, INC, CoWorkers. You know who you are, even if I don't. This picture was on Matthew's Facebook page so it was important to him. Somehow, You were part of his adventure. He made it look easy. Love You Brother.
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 13, 2023
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Matthew @ LOPKE CONTRACTING, INC in Apalachin New York, driving the big trucks. Matthew had the patience to navigate these big beasts. It was a fun adventure for him. He loved it. You make it look easy, Not everybody can do this kind of work. Love You Brother.
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 13, 2023
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Matthew @ LOPKE CONTRACTING, INC. Matthew loved these big rigs and loved the adventure of being an 18 wheeler truck driver. He had responsibility for expensive equipment and he took that responsibility seriously. Just like he loved the big ships and technology of the NAVY, he loved these big rigs and transporting all kinds of machinery and technology. You do it well, You make it look easy, Love You Brother.
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 13, 2023
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Mom loved family pictures of her babies back then. Left to Right: Rachel, Mom, baby John, Esther, Matthew. We are sitting next to Mom's flower garden. Love You Brother
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 13, 2023
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Matthew playing with his pedal-car in the Sparkman Drive House in Alabama, New York. 1960s. Matthew and all us kids had a great time there, many happy memories, Love You Brother.
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 13, 2023
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Mom never wanted any of the kids to be jealous of the new baby, so she bought us ALL babies of our own to take care of. So here we are on the couch with Dad and a new baby. Matthew gets his new baby too, just like we all do. Matthew and Rachel are the 2 kids to the right of Dad. Esther is to the left. Love You Brother.
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 13, 2023
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Left to Right - Matthew (top), John (bottom), Rachel, SarahJane, Esther. Sparkman Drive house, Huntsville, Alabama. Family swimming was a routine occurrence in the 1960's. Many fun memories together with my brother, Matthew. Love You Brother.
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 13, 2023
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Family Picture after swimming in the pool at the 3809 Sparkman Drive House. Left to Right: Matthew, John, Mom, Esther, Dad, SarahJane, Rachel.
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 13, 2023
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Matthew with Mom, Rachel and Esther. Matthew in red stripped shirt.
Love You Brother.
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 13, 2023
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Matthew Rachel Esther in Candor New York house when IBM moved Dad to New York. Matthew in red stripped shirt. Love You Brother.
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 13, 2023
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Matthew playing with his siblings in the 3809 Sparkman Drive House in Huntsville, Alabama. The left 3 kids are Rachel Matthew Esther. On the right: Mom, John, SarahJane
Love You Brother
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 13, 2023
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Mom clearly loved family photos back in the 1960s.
Same picture as below, only now Dad is in the picture too.
Left to Right: SarahJane, John, Rachel, Matthew, Esther.
Love You Brother
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 13, 2023
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Matthew and Rachel - West Virginia University Married Students Housing.
Dad went to college on the NAVY G.I. Bill and he & Mom started their family while in college. Love You Brother. Glad to share the stroller with you.
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 13, 2023
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Left to Right: John, Esther, Matthew, SarahJane, Rachel
We were always going to the doctors office, since Mom had 5 kids, someone was always needing to go to the doctors office for something or other. Mom dressed us up cute and in the waiting room, we would get balloons and little gifts for being good by the office staff. Love You Brother.
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 13, 2023
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Matthews High School Graduation - Tioga Central High School. New York State.
Left to Right - John, Dad, Rebecca (small girl), Matthew, Mom, Esther, Rachel, Sarah Jane.
Looking handsome and ready for the next chapter !
Love You Brother
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 13, 2023
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Matthew mowing the grass out on the "farm". There are no more chickens, ducks or goats these days so it's not really farm anymore, but Matthew says if he does not mow the grass religiously, and keep the grass short, the mice will come right up to the house and invade. Matthew worked hard to keep the varmints out of the house (squirrels, snakes, mice), LOL. Love You Brother
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 13, 2023
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Matthew is being held by his PAPAW HEFNER in Parkersburg West Virginia. This is Matthews grand father on the HEFNER side. He was a toddler at the time. Cute little fella. Love You Brother
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 13, 2023
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MATTHEW in the 1960's at my Dad's new house in Huntsville for Dads very first job with IBM. Left to right: Rachel, Esther, Mom with Sarah in her lap, Dad with John in his lap, and standing is Matthew.
3809 Sparkman Drive, Huntsville, Alabama. This house was one of the very first houses build in Sparkman drive back in the 1960s. IBM had a facility that developed Antennas that went up on the Apollo Moon Missions. Matthew and us kids watched the Apollo Missions on TV with our Dad. We kids had a playroom and fenced in play yard that was right in front of the kitchen window so Mom could see us play while she was in the kitchen doing her thing. Matthew, Esther, Rachel endlessly played games with each and had adventure galore here. Once, Esther and I would play a game where we would put our hands on the floor in the playroom behind this center of the room island, and we told Matthew to go ahead and try to throw a small brick to hit our hands. We though he could not do it. We learned otherwise, LOL. Many happy memories for Matthew, Esther, Rachel in the Sparkman Drive house.
Love You Brother
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 13, 2023
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MATTHEW's parents, William Hefner and Christine Richardson Hefner. Today they are 89 and 86 respectively and have dementia, and dad is in long term care, so they will not to able to attend the beautiful memorial service that their beloved Matthew will have, however, given that this service will be video captured, we can carry the service to them and share it with them. Mom and Dad would be so proud of the beautiful service that this funeral home will be giving him. My heart aches they cannot be here, and also aches that they are not aware they lost a son last week due to their dementia. In time, though, we will share this service with them. It would have meant the world to them to be here. They are here in love. Love You Brother.
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 13, 2023
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Matthew's HEFNER grandparents who lived in Parkersburg West Virginia, right near the City Park, 2704 New York Avenue. They had 12 kids, so every visit was loaded with fun as there were plenty of kids to play with in the neighborhood in addition to Mamaw's and Papaw's kids. We visited Christmas, Thanksgiving and many days in between. Many happy memories with his HEFNER grandparents. Love You Brother.
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 13, 2023
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MATTHEW 's grandparents on the RICHARDSON side of the family. Many happy memories Matthew had with his Richardson grandparents in Parkersburg West Virginia, at 816 Quincy Street, an historic house with many rooms and stairs to run up and down in as well as a secret attic. Growing up Matthew spent many holidays there, Christmas, Thanksgiving and many visits in between. Many happy memories with his RICHARDSON grandparents.
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 13, 2023
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MATTHEW is on the left, either college newspaper or local newspaper wrote up an article on all the HEFNER Family's kids were going to college at one time, at Broome Community College. Matthew was studying computer technology. Love You Brother
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 13, 2023
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Matthew wearing a camo outfit. He looks sharp in CAMO too. Love You Brother
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 13, 2023
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Beautiful Matthew on a motorcycle. He loved that bike. It suits him. Love You Brother.
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 13, 2023
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Matthew in what would now be a vintage car....year unknown. Matthew loved sports cars. Love You Brother
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 13, 2023
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Love Matthew's infectious laugh. Here he is laughing joyously. Love You Brother.
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 13, 2023
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Matthew during his NAVY days. Such a sharp looking critter. Love You Brother.
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 13, 2023
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The Hefner's were NAVY men.
- Matthew is a NAVY man
- Matthew's brother John is a NAVY man
- Matthew's Dad is a NAVY man
- Matthew's Dad's Dad is a NAVY man [Shown In Picture Below]
- Matthew's Dad's Dad's brother was a NAVY man
Matthew carrying the family tradition forward as a NAVY man.
One of his most treasured experiences in this love. He adored it.
All those big ships, all the technology, it was a fascinating journey!
Love You Brother.
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 13, 2023
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Matthew in his Garth Brooks look. So handsome. Love You Brother.
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 13, 2023
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Matthew's Selfie unknown year. Beautiful. Love You Brother.
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 13, 2023
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Matthew's avatar of himself. It captures him perfectly. I just can't believe you are not here. Rest in Peace, my beautiful brother.
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 13, 2023
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Matt's Avatar - I love it. Matthew had an artistic side as a kid and would draw elaborate cartoons that were extra ordinary! It's not a surprise he loves the avatar technology. :)
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 13, 2023
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Matthew in the NAVY, San Diego, California. It suited him very well. He loved all the ships, uniforms, training, travelling, and regiment and structure.
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 13, 2023
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Matthew Hefner, NAVY, San Diego, California. Matthew loooooved the NAVY so much. He would have stayed as a career NAVY man, but he had some recurring issues with broken bones around the ankle, which made him ineligible to re-enlist.
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 13, 2023
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Matthew Hefner in Navy, San Diego, California. He loved the uniforms and looked so sharp in his NAVY Blues. He is looking and feeling confident.
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RACHEL HEFNER uploaded photo(s)
Monday, February 13, 2023
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One of my favorite pictures of Matthew - it captures the essence of him. The vibe of him.
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